Contentment

Somebody once told me that "Finding the right person is very hard and very wrong. It is best to be the right person for the one you love and start from there. You'll always end up disappointed when you set standards and define a "right person" for you. And don't rush things because somewhere somehow God is preparing somebody for you."

You can never be perfect! The person you love can never be perfect, but both of you can be perfect through love and prayers, and your love can be perfect through the both of you. But, no relationship is complete without God. That's why we have marriage. It's a bond not only between you and your loved one, but also with God.

Our relationships fail not because he or she is not the right person. It's because we expected too much and we decided on our own. Let God do the work. You may call it waiting time, but while you are waiting... you pray. Let God guide you always. He knows better.

No! He knows best.

Love is not what we think it is. Sometimes we mistakenly feel that our first relationship will be our last. Because we are overwhelmed with joy and romance, we forget to learn the meaning of true love. Some are saying that love is unselfish, blind, and unconditional or simply denying oneself for the sake of someone very important in our life. Others are saying love is immortal and can never be defined.

When we think we're in love, the first thing we almost wanted the whole world to know is that our love for someone very special can never be taken away from us. We say this phrase "You are the most wonderful gift from GOD I have ever received." After a terrible fight or sometimes even a petty quarrel we then say, "You are the biggest mistake I've ever made for my entire life!!!"

Now, how do we say and spell the word L-O-V-E? Are we really deeply into it?Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whispers right into our ears. Most of the time, these love promises like "Forever, Till Death do us apart, etc.". These promised would also end up in - "Never" and "We should part ways, I'm no longer happy with you!” or “My love for you is DEAD!!!”

Many times we thought after having committed to someone and our trust to one another freezes down to zero degree we say, "He or she isn't the right one. I should probably wait for the right one to come." But the big question anyone could not answer is "Is he or she the right one?" and "When is the right time?" Those made us stick to whom we are with.

Should we always be waiting for the right person to come and the right time to commit? A big YES is the answer.

Don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if you insist that we are already into it. Try to find time to really understand your real feelings, to know who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship.

You're right, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there's a compatible partnership that goes along with it. If you already knew that you're too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt, don't give it a try. You'll probably break it and pay for the damages you have made.

If you knew and felt that the relationship will not last, don't go deeper into it. You'll just suffer the consequences and live like hell the rest of your life. It's really hard to say goodbye though, but you can't make it any better by just pretending you still have the same feelings. Try to let go and give yourself a chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a chance to grow and give your heart a much-needed attention. Then you will find that you have made the right decision all by yourself.

More frequently than not, we all act in a hypocritical manner for some reason.

We call it love when we can't leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong, its just pity.

We call it love when we're too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life. We misunderstand it; it's just that we're too much dependent to them.

We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us and imagined that if they leave no one would accept our past and us. We are mistaken, its just insecurity.

But no matter what the definition is, the truth still remains that love isn't something we can buy nor beg. It is real and existing. We can't touch it but we can feel it in our hearts. We can't find it, but it will knock before us when we least expect it to come. It can make us the happiest soul in heaven, but don't forget that it also can make us the most miserable person in the whole galaxy.

We always need to remember, "Contentment is not the fulfillment of what we want. It is the realization of how much we already have."

Love, Keep It In Your Heart

If you find yourself in love to someone who does not love you, be gentle to yourself... there is nothing wrong with you, love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart...

If you find someone else is in love with you and you don't love him/her, feel honored that love came and called at your door but gently refuse the gift you cannot return do not take advantage... do not cause pain... how you deal with love is how you deal with you... and all our hearts feel the same pain and joys even if our lives and ways are different...

If you fall in love with someone and he/she falls in love with you and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or asses to blame, let it go...there is a reason and there is a meaning...you will know in time... remember that you don't choose love... love chooses you... all you can really do is to accept it for all its mystery when it comes in to your life... feel the way it fills you to overflowing then reach out and give it away... give it back to the person who brought it alive in you... give it to others who deem it poor in spirit... give it to the world around you in any way you can...

There is where many lovers go wrong having been so long without love... they understand love only as a need... they see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them... the first blush of new love is filled to overflowing but as their love cools, they revert to seeing love as need they cease to be someone who generates love and instead they become someone who seeks love... they forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift and that it can only be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart... love has its own time, its own seasons, it has its own reasons of coming and going you cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into saying... you can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you but if it chooses to leave your heart or from the heart of your lover there is nothing you can do, and theres is nothing you should do... love always has been and always will be a mystery. be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life...if you keep your heart open it will come again...

Attitude for Happiness

It was Sunday and I had a bad start of the day. I went home at 6 in the morning from work, feeling tired and irritated because, I did not finish the job I was supposed to accomplish. I had a massive headache, so I decided to sleep for a couple of hours.

In the afternoon, my sister and I decided to go to church and attend mass but she declined to go. At that instance, I felt like not going too. However, something was pushing me to go. So I went alone, thinking that I’d just attend a part of the mass.

During the homily, the priest celebrator hit the mark when he said “our attitude affects our happiness more than anything else”. He pointed out that it is what we do with what is happening in our life that matters and not what’s happening in our life. It was hard to grasp at a start, but I finally came to understand, that whatever we do in life, with the right attitude centered on Christ’s teaching we will be able to face life with optimism.

Earlier that day, I faced the problem with irritation that is why, I felt bad most of the day. And I realized, had I faced the problem at work with positive view, my day would have been a lot different.

Reaching the Limit

Am I about to reach the limit?
Am I about to give up on it?
Will I ever be happy about it?
Or will I dread the idea a bit?

Seems like eternity,
This feeling given to me by destiny…
I want to shout
But I just can’t let it out…

I feel so numb
I can’t even move a limb
I’m sorry that I am hanging so long
This will never last long…

Just give me time to heal
I promise and it will be real
The limit is near approaching
I won’t be there hanging…

You sacrificed a lot for me.
For that I owe you the life in me
Sorry for being such a pain
Sorry for being a stain…

You are a big part of my life
But maybe I could still live a life
That could take me away from hurt
And will eventually heal this heart…

Thank you for caring
I felt it and it’s so endearing
Just tell me to stop loving you,
And I will try to do it for you…

I learned my lesson well
Even if I’m not so well
I know you love me in a way
And I don’t want to stay away…

But maybe this is my fate
Or I may have been just late…
Anyhow I will be ready to take it
Anytime that you will be reaching the limit…

Commitment

The most important, most critical component in successful loving is commitment, it is not love.
It's easy to love without commitment. People do it all the time. It is easy to love, to give oneself for a while. But commitment implies bonding in such a way that one promises to keep the fires of love burning indefinitely. It also means shutting one's heart to the possibility of loving another who might even be more attractive, even more lovable. It is not easy. This is why solid commitments are not at all as common as we are led to believe.

More often than not, the commitment two lovers make are not equal. It means the commitment of one might be a whole lot more or a whole lot less than his or her partner. We see it all the time. One loves more than the other and is more committed than the other. It is false to believe that two lovers love each other at the same degree.

We have often seen lopsided love relationships where one partner is giving so much more to the relationship than the other. But writers and poets seem to always indicate that love isn't just a two-way street, but an equal two-way street. That hardly ever happens. It is impossible to determine exactly how much a man loves a woman or how much a woman cares for a man.

Love cannot be measured and that can be a huge problem. You can love someone and tell him "I love you" and you're telling the truth. But how much do you love him? Enough to let him court you? Enough to marry him? Enough to die for him?

The greatest test of true love is commitment. And the greatest indicator of deep love is deep commitment. There can be no doubting in this. I have heard so many people say all the right words and make all the right moves and pledge undying love, only to walk away weeks or months later. Were they in love? Sure they were. But not enough to allow them to hold strong in their love. Not enough to keep a commitment regardless of the pain.

A lover gets this sinking feeling when there is a sense that one is more committed than the other, when one is giving a lot more than one is receiving, and when one's love is a lot more solid than the creaky love of the partner. When a couple believe strongly that their commitment to each other is rock solid, there is a deep sense of security, a feeling that it's OK to give all because the gift of yourself is safe in the hands of the beloved.

If, however, there is doubt or, even worse, the conviction that one is engaged in one-way giving, in a one-way commitment that is lopsided, then there is a tendency to pull back and not give as much. And when that happens, love begins to fade.

Unless there is the rising of the level of commitment, the relationship is doomed. It's finished. Sooner or later the stress will take its toll and the relationship will begin to fall apart.

If we look carefully at lovers who are still very much in love after 20 or 25 years, their commitment to each other cannot be shaken, neither can their love.

THE SENTIMENTS OF A WRITER

This feeling of loneliness is a feeling of grief. There are times when I feel so down that I tend to give up on everything good for me. It is so hard to stay on focus with what I want in this point in time.

Time is running fast. Here I am again, experiencing the downside of my life. I try to convince myself that it gives me strength to face the world. A lot of times, I remain the silent griever, trying to hide it all in my chest. In the exterior, I may be a very tough individual. But who can ever understand me? Even my loved once, the ones I’ve been with for all of my life has always been puzzled with the way I thought. Who can ever fathom that behind this strong and determined personality is a glass that is in the verge of shattering into pieces?

A lot may understand me, but my deepest and innermost self will always be something that no one can ever know. I admit, I am tired of fighting for this life. It is so hard to stay on the ground and not fall down when everyday, the load I carry becomes heavier.

I am a writer. My sentiments and grief make me one. I have always put my feelings in it. Why does it have to be this way when I write? Is it weakness in my part that I can only write when I’m down? How many more grief should I experience to make me write? How many more problems should I have to encounter?

My heart broken or emotions shattered, I am a writer with those sentiments. I will forever write. I will forever be the grieving writer.

Trust and Love

How can we trust the people we love?

It is very ironic that the more we love the person, the more we become unprotected of our feelings. It makes us so vulnerable. A lot of times, we become more doubtful as a result of the feeling of vulnerability. This is where we start to question the love. We start to feel that somehow there is something wrong with the relationship. TRUST! This is now being put into the test.

Should our love be enough to trust the love? When we say we need to trust the love, does it mean, we have to trust our partner’s love? What if the person is not that trustworthy? What if he is not faithful?

Many times we are confronted with the issue of trust in the relationship. Many times, a failed relationship roots from the absence of trust. It is true that the success of relationship is based not only on the love, respect and care, but most of the time though; it has to do with the confidence of one that we trust our partner and that we have faith in him. In the first place, the reason why we said “YES” to our boyfriend is because we know that we can entrust our heart to him. Entrusting our heart means entrusting our love.

But is love enough to really make us feel secure that our partner will stay faithful to us? Most of the time, the deeper our love is, the more we become blind of the faithfulness of our partner. The more that we feel our love become deep, the more that we become so entrusting.

When we are in-love, we are in the positive and favorable side of the world. This is a fact: When we are deeply in-love we may come across all the challenges in our relationship, but as long as we know, that our partner is with us, we overcome it, come hell or high. As time passes by, we begin to entrust our life. When we make the mistake of entrusting our life to the wrong person, this is where we begin to fail in life.

I don’t want to disillusion you. I just want to make us all aware, that somehow, in this present world, we need to be extra careful, especially with the matters of the heart.

Trust, it entails love. Love it entails trust. Together, it makes a very powerful binding force to make our commitment last forever.

Therefore, trust the right person. Entrust your love to the person, who knows how to entrust his life to you. That way, we’ll know, we will always be in the safe ground and our love will never be thrown and wasted.